Debbie’s Blog



Have you ever not wanted to make a commitment??
Do you say the first thing that comes to mind?
Have you ever regretted what you said to someone?

If you are like me, you are living life on autopilot. In other words, your responses are ones that are programmed. When I was discharged from Caron, a drug and alcohol rehabilitation center, I found it necessary to change only one thing; that one thing was everything

That was a tall order! Instead of being overwhelmed, I broke it down into smaller steps. One of the first things I noticed that needed changing was my vocabulary, not only the words I was speaking but the thoughts that were in my mind. So I began to remove words that didn’t empower me. Words such as try, probably, and hard.

Take the word try; it prevents us from making a commitment. When we try to do something, we allow wiggle room. Trying means we aren’t committing any energy to doing something.It also provides us an excuse for why we didn’t achieve the results we wanted, letting ourselves off the hook when we fail.


Trying is not the same thing as doing. What are you trying to improve?

  • Are you trying to eat healthily —or are you eating healthy?
  • Are you trying to exercise daily—or are you exercising daily?
  • Are you trying to set boundaries by saying no—or are you setting boundaries by saying no?

Do you see the difference? When you hit a pause button, it will be an effort not to say the word try because you’re now dealing with another kind of power. You are going from “not making a commitment” to “making a commitment.”

Nothing changes in a person’s life who uses the word try.  If you want to change, here are three steps you can take: 

  1. Eliminate the word try from your vocabulary.
  2. Heed Yoda’s advice and decide to “do or do not.”
  3. Commit fully to the outcome you want.

Choices have consequences. Your choices today will affect the rest of your life. Choose wisely.


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